When Life Gets Numb

We are all in different walks of life and at different levels of maturity. Where one person may be learning a lesson in business, another may have already learned it and has moved on. Where one person is learning a lesson in friendship, another has learned and moved on. We can all take a moment to lend a helping hand where others need it rather than point a finger at the immaturity or failings.

In this thing called life, we all have the potential to lose focus or desire. We want to give up when we feel like life is becoming overwhelming. I recently had a talk with a young woman whose life is bearing down so hard, she has become numb to her situation. She has lost all care and it really doesn’t matter what happens because of the numbness she feels.


Have you ever sat on your leg or laid on your arm too long? You know that numb feeling you get when you do that? That’s about the way she feels. Numb to life. She feels nothing. She has no response to her surroundings. You could emotionally hurt her, physically beat her, spiritually defeat her, verbally damage her and she wouldn’t feel it because she has grown numb to life; even to the point of asking if life has a point.

Pins and Needles

The loss of value in life is a dangerous place to be. In order to find that value, it does not get much easier. You know that pins and needles feeling you get when the feeling starts to come back after the initial numbness? I hate that part. But it’s necessary. In order to get some sort of sensation back into your arm or leg or whatever numbness you are experiencing, you have to go through the pins and needles. It is not fun. It will make you question if it is really worth it. The numbness felt better. But we must persevere.

Getting Feeling Back

This is where this verse is valuable.

“Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.”

Psalm 51:12

David, someone who we would consider a powerhouse in the faith, had those moments too. He wrote this psalm after being called out by Nathan for committing adultery with Bathsheba. He needed a restoration because life was becoming to hard for him. Shame, guilt, frustration, hollowness, and numbness were setting in. He was becoming overwhelmed. Thankfully, he recognized it before it was too late and turned to the only one who could help.

As we all should, he turned to God to render him worthy to breathe the next breath again. He wanted to feel useful. He wanted redemption. He wanted to experience the joy found in God again. He wanted to experience being in unstrained relationship with God. So he asked God to restore that joy knowing full well that pins and needles would be next. Maybe if he saw Bathsheba, he’d have to look away or worse, apologize. Maybe he had to face those he had hurt.

Wounds do not heal quickly. It takes time. That is why David asks God to sustain him with a willing spirit. He knew that his spirit was easily distracted with worldly things. Only God can sustain our spirit. When the pins and needles come it will be tempting to numb it up again. But we have to persevere to get back to the point we can feel again.

Where do you turn when life gets numb? What about when the pins and needles start to take shape?


About Kevin Riner
child of grace, worshiper of Jesus, husband, father, Pastor of Village Church, author of Faith Debugged

2 Responses to When Life Gets Numb

  1. stacykgray says:

    This is great. Thank you.

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